selflessness and selfishness

God ask us to be selfless not selfish. We all fall into the second one alot. We have so much time in our lifes to help out others, to teach, to be tought, and to just show love. But we usually hide away, not opening up in fear of getting hurt, fear of having to hide away even deeper next time. It's a hard thing to do and still keep strong. Life isn't a simple game of give and take, or just take or just give. There is so much more into it, sometimes when we are giving, we are taking. And when we take, we give. Every person has a different type of love language. We in our selfishness don't see that or take the time to learn it. We simply just do what ever our love language is, and get hurt or hate that person for not understanding the true meaning in what you did for them. We have to find out if that person words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, acts of service or physical touch. We miss out on these detail and lose touch with people or fail to even start relationships. We need to take the time to get to know each other and care for each other as loving brothers and sisters.

My mini topic is how people just ignore what others say and take it offensively and get hurt by it. Instead of understanding that one person likes one thing but is willing to do another thing for another person to make them happy. So stop taking things as if that person doesnt want to do it, or is trying to make it the worst time, but understand they would like, as themselves, to do something else with their time.